Do it for Dolly

By Sarah Bobart posted 13-05-2022 12:30


Today is Do it for Dolly Day – a day that is dedicated to sharing kindness and taking a stand against bullying.  It is a cause that is quite close to my heart, both having witnessed and experienced the effects of bullying firsthand.  I assume many of you also have.  The thing is though that bullying behaviour is learnt.  It is not something that children inherently do; they learn it somewhere.

Whether that is at home, on tv, at school or online, it’s a behaviour that we need to step up and change.  Too often do we ask the victim of bullying what they have done rather than helping to give them strategies to stand up for themselves in appropriate ways.  Too often the bullying behaviour is reinforced through careless comments – ‘boys will be boys’ or ‘girls can be really bitchy’.

It’s not always overt either.  Sometimes it is something that may seem as innocent as moving a chair away from someone as soon as they sit down.

So what is it that you can do? 

Encouraging empathy is always an important step.  My mantra has always been “If you don’t like it done to you, don’t do it to anyone else.”  So I ask question like, do you like it when…? How do you feel and follow it up with so how do you think X likes it/feels?

I also do a lot of talking about ignoring due to the fact that often times a reaction is what is being sought.  But also ensuring that reporting to an authority figure is also an option after they have tried to stop it themselves.

So be kind and speak even if your voice shakes

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